short-term bucket list

I had an unofficial bucket list in my head many years before, particularly stemming from my high school years. There’s some items that I’ve since had retracted, and a few that I’ve decided to give more thought. Though instead of putting optional items, I decided to put the ones that are most important to me. And instead of it being a bucket list for all the items that I want to check off over theread more

Countless times in my life, I’ve been told that I’m not good enough, not talented enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough. Or, I’ve been told the opposite, that I’m too smart, too pretty, too kind, too nice, too good to not do XYZ. Listen, I’m not behind in life. And, I’m not unworthy of whatever I want to achieve in life either. Stop placing arbitrary standards onto me, and stop comparing me to everyoneread more

no new year's resolutions for 2022

No resolutions for me this 2022. Not yet, at least. When the new year approaches, it’s easy to jump into setting new goals and targets. But, I’d rather not do this prematurely, especially with all the hype and celebration. Apparently, less than 10% of people actually keep their resolutions. And for myself, I know if I set some resolution arbitrarily now, I’m probably not gonna stick with it for too long.read more

I’m going to be experimenting with something that many people in self-help would despise, which is a life without goals. I’ve done this during several time periods of my life, mostly during childhood, not having any particular goal and just going with the flow. However, this time, it is intentional. For the beginning of 2022 at least, I’m not going to set any goals, and I’m not going to make any New Year’s resolutions. Onread more

How do people choose goals? I’ve been pondering this more over the past year, as I’ve gone through 2 quarterly planning processes. I’ve never done quarterly planning prior to this year, not in business nor in personal life. Before, I would focus on the overall year or maybe the next week/month. I didn’t have much of a formal process for this. With the quarterly process, I noticed that I was trying to pack a certainread more

wanting to do everything but doing nothing

There’s so many goals that I’d love to achieve, but then ultimately end up not working on. In a sense, I think I get overwhelmed by so many ideas that I don’t know where to start. Sometimes also, it seems like there are some timely opportunities that pop up, but the timing conflicts with other things that I’d also like to work on. So ultimately, I procrastinate in the best way I know how: watchingread more

I think certain therapies such as occupational therapy (OT) have their place, but sometimes I feel like it’s too focused on what I perceive to be “fake growth”. Instead of making internal shifts, I feel like it’s too focused on accomplishments and goals. I think it’s fine if it’s something you want to do. But otherwise, I’d much rather focus on “real growth”, which stems from internal shifts. How do I define “fake growth” vs.read more

I hate to say it, but sometimes, I look at how others are doing in similar fields to me and use that as a way to gauge my own abilities. They say comparison can kill, but honestly, sometimes it motivates me. Sometimes, I get inspired by what others do. Sometimes, I even get envious or judgmental. I always acknowledge it, and I tell myself, “Hey, if they can do it, so can I, if that’sread more

For January 2021, I planned on hula hooping 5 minutes a day. That ended up not working as planned because the weight hula hoop hurt my abs after 15 seconds, and I couldn’t imagine continuing with that pain. So, I attempted to build up to 5 minutes a day. Though, I didn’t hula hoop every day. I hooped maybe 3-4 times a week. By the end of the month, the most I could hoop atread more

In November, I did a 30-day book reading challenge (20 pages or more). In December, I learned a new word every day. This January, I was planning to hula hoop 5 minutes a day. But unfortunately on Day 1, I realized that this goal was too ambitious for my level of fitness. 😅 You see, I haven’t hula hooped for three years or so. So when I first attempted to hula hoop on January 1st,read more