I generally avoid sharing goals. I’m terrible at committing to a goal publicly. But otherwise, I’ve accomplished quite a few goals on my own, without needing to be held accountable to anyone in particular. There were times where I felt rushed to achieve a goal as soon as other people were clued into what I was doing (mostly because people are excited, and ahhh!). And, now I’m actively keeping people out of my business, unless
Earlier this year, I deliberately forgoed New Year’s resolutions and goals in general. There was no quarterly planning this time. I briefly thought I’d attempt another quarterly planning session for April through June, though that also got derailed. Perhaps it was a blessing in disguise. It’s still a bit too early to tell. But! I will say, a lot of unexpected events unfolded this year so far, and it’s not even halfway through the year
I had an unofficial bucket list in my head many years before, particularly stemming from my high school years. There’s some items that I’ve since had retracted, and a few that I’ve decided to give more thought. Though instead of putting optional items, I decided to put the ones that are most important to me. And instead of it being a bucket list for all the items that I want to check off over the
Countless times in my life, I’ve been told that I’m not good enough, not talented enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough. Or, I’ve been told the opposite, that I’m too smart, too pretty, too kind, too nice, too good to not do XYZ. Listen, I’m not behind in life. And, I’m not unworthy of whatever I want to achieve in life either. Stop placing arbitrary standards onto me, and stop comparing me to everyone
No resolutions for me this 2022. Not yet, at least. When the new year approaches, it’s easy to jump into setting new goals and targets. But, I’d rather not do this prematurely, especially with all the hype and celebration. Apparently, less than 10% of people actually keep their resolutions. And for myself, I know if I set some resolution arbitrarily now, I’m probably not gonna stick with it for too long.
I’m going to be experimenting with something that many people in self-help would despise, which is a life without goals. I’ve done this during several time periods of my life, mostly during childhood, not having any particular goal and just going with the flow. However, this time, it is intentional. For the beginning of 2022 at least, I’m not going to set any goals, and I’m not going to make any New Year’s resolutions. On
How do people choose goals? I’ve been pondering this more over the past year, as I’ve gone through 2 quarterly planning processes. I’ve never done quarterly planning prior to this year, not in business nor in personal life. Before, I would focus on the overall year or maybe the next week/month. I didn’t have much of a formal process for this. With the quarterly process, I noticed that I was trying to pack a certain
There’s so many goals that I’d love to achieve, but then ultimately end up not working on. In a sense, I think I get overwhelmed by so many ideas that I don’t know where to start. Sometimes also, it seems like there are some timely opportunities that pop up, but the timing conflicts with other things that I’d also like to work on. So ultimately, I procrastinate in the best way I know how: watching
I think certain therapies such as occupational therapy (OT) have their place, but sometimes I feel like it’s too focused on what I perceive to be “fake growth”. Instead of making internal shifts, I feel like it’s too focused on accomplishments and goals. I think it’s fine if it’s something you want to do. But otherwise, I’d much rather focus on “real growth”, which stems from internal shifts. How do I define “fake growth” vs.
I hate to say it, but sometimes, I look at how others are doing in similar fields to me and use that as a way to gauge my own abilities. They say comparison can kill, but honestly, sometimes it motivates me. Sometimes, I get inspired by what others do. Sometimes, I even get envious or judgmental. I always acknowledge it, and I tell myself, “Hey, if they can do it, so can I, if that’s